"guess i’ll never be able to dress a niece/nephew"
stop feeling so entitled to my hypothetical offspring. it is not yours. it is mine. i will grow it if i grow it. and it will be mine. not yours. i am not an incubator which grants you familial titles. jesus. go away. this “have a baby i can play with” thing is so impersonal and insensitive and annoying.
oh man the best is when a dude is like "you’re not wife material." fucking good. i want to be totalitarian dictator material; blood sucking life ruiner material; fucking bulletproof immortal drug lord material. not your fucking wife you gross asshole.
During a publicity interview for The Hobbit: The Desolation of Smaug, the film’s star Martin Freeman was asked a fun, fluffy question about what sort of Middle Earth race he’d be most DTF. And he answered with a pretty fucked up joke about elf rape. Goddamn it, Bilbo. I didn’t think this kind of talk was tolerated in the Shire.
“Female job applicants with children are 44 percent less likely to be hired for a job than are childless women with similar qualifications. Fathers, by contrast, are 19 percent MORE likely to be hired than are comparably qualified men without children.”—
"Getting a Job: Is there a Motherhood Penalty?" American Journal of Sociology, 2007 (via checkprivilege)
“The thing about this appropriation of the burqa that people need to understand is that people like Lady Gaga haven’t done a thing for the communities [here and abroad] that wear, live and breathe the garb who are subjected to harassment for doing so. The words “appreciation” and “admiration” are painfully hollow when you take a piece of clothing from a community and strip it of its intent and the consequences that come from it. Lady Gaga makes millions and taxes subsequently take a huge chunk of those millions. Therein, a quarter of her taxes are used to ravage Muslim majority populations. Has she spoken out about this? Has anyone orientalist who bastardizes our garb done so? Where were they when the Sikh tragedy happened? Where are they now when Newsweek posts a horribly offensive article on Muslim rage, aggressively written by their puppet Ayaan Hirsi Ali, who I’m ashamed to call my fellow Somali? Do they come to our defense when we’re expected to kneel over and apologize on behalf of extremists, who funnily enough kill us as well? If I wear a burqa, niqab.. or hell even a fucking hijab, I’m a stupid, brown savage who has no capacity to think for herself. But when Gaga wears it, its revolutionary and fashionable. People love to scream equality and colorblindedness when such an event arises, but such a world is completely theoretical until we fix these the caricatured perceptions about Islam. The power dynamics here cannot be ignored.”
— My friend Khadijah and her thoughts on Lady Gaga recently being spotted donning a “burqa” (via maarnayeri)
If I hear "you're the first Asian girl I've ever kissed, dated, or whatever" one more time, I might scream. Why is it necessary to bring up my race? You appeared bearable until that comment. I am not a fetish or something to check off your bucket list. I am not a novelty. I am not "exotic" and please stop commenting on how you want to dress me up like a Japanese schoolgirl. It's off putting and offensive.
So tired of people fetishizing Asians. So tired of my "friends" blurting out "ASIAN" when they see me in the hallways or trying to poke my eyelids or touch my hair. So tired of my "friends" telling me that I act too "white" and it's disappointing. So tired of them invalidating my arguments by saying that I'm overreacting, that it's not racism if it's positive, that people love me because I'm asian and I should be happy. So tired of them arguing over me like I'm their property.
“By comparison, domestic violence is downright controversial. It touches on complicated issues like power, rape culture, victim-blaming, and gender roles, and stirs up uncomfortable emotions. While few people would claim they support abusers, many known perpetrators of domestic violence — from Roman Polanski to Chris Brown to a number of football players — remain venerated cultural figures. Is it any wonder that, even though domestic violence affects many more women and families, breast cancer is the issue we’ve all come to associate with October? Every year 232,340 women are diagnosed with invasive breast cancer; 1.3 million are assaulted by their husbands or boyfriends. One in eight women will suffer from breast cancer in her lifetime. One in four will experience domestic violence. Good luck finding that statistic on a yogurt lid this month.”—
No one wants to make as big a deal out of domestic violence because then they’d be forced to hold men accountable for their role in this issue, which ranges from full-on raging violence to passivity as their friends and brothers contribute to this epidemic. Nope, fighting an invisible monster is much less scary than a real one that can look you in the eye.